Being Important…

It’s easy to see a relationship as the end-all and be-all of your existence. Knowing someone loves you, and only you, and just being able to love me back makes for a exhilarating experiences.

            Let’s face it---it’s flattering to be given that much attention, and it feels good to take care of someone. But what if your boy leaves you and he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore? Feels like the end of the world? For some people, Yes. While the number of suicide cases in the Philippines is still quite low (thank goodness!) compared to those in the US and Japan, teen suicide due to depression are still happening. Many others have admitted actually entertaining suicidal thoughts even they didn’t commit the act.

            It’s easy to think of suicide if you’re looking for the easiest and fastest way to get rid of the pain of being dumped and being “alone” again. But before you go any further, think about how valuable your life is and how it is important than any guy.

            There’s no question that our relationship was important to us, most times, they even help us define who we are. But if you start losing yourself in that relationship, if you are no longer important to yourself as yourself, if you feel you are only important when you are with your guy, that’s not the most ideal place to be in.

            If it is a good relationship---mutual, loving, enriching, not harmful to you or anyone else-then by all means keep it. But do not consider that relationship more important than yourself.

            Continue indulging in your interest. Develop and keep your relationship with family and friends. The more you strengthen the other aspects of your life, the more secure your personal foundation will be.

            Separating from your guy will still hurt, but yourself will be intact. And with your safety net of friends and family, you’ll be back in good form in no time.