Change of Moods...

Well, being a girl, changes of mood is kind that comes naturally being hormonal and all that certain time every month and No, it doesn’t immediately mean we are bipolar. But not only girls experience these kinds of hormonal changes and activities, even boys do. Everyone can experience mood swings due to the daily factors in our lives like stress, PMS for girls, the food that we eat, sudden changes of weather and many other factors.

What are MOOD SWINGS?

Mood swings are excessive or abrupt changes in your frame of mind. Your mood may suddenly shift from elation and euphoria to extreme sadness or terror, and then on to another emotion. In some cases, mood changes are reactions to your environment or circumstances, although the intensity of the mood might seem out of proportion with the significance of the event. In other cases, mood swings may occur for no apparent reason.

Moods are thought to result from interplay of chemicals in the brain; the cause of mood swings is not known, but they may be related to imbalances in these chemicals.

Mood swings can occur as a symptom of psychiatric disorders, such as bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder, or they may result from a medical condition that directly affects the central nervous system, such as dementia, brain tumors, meningitis, and stroke. Mood swings can also result from conditions that deprive the brain of nutrients and oxygen, such as lung and cardiovascular diseases. Substance abuse, medication side effects, and hormonal changes are other potential causes of mood swings.

Academic, employment, financial, legal and relationship problems may result from mood swings.

What Other Symptoms Might Occur With Mood Swings?

Mood swings may accompany other symptoms that vary depending on the underlying disease, disorder or condition. Conditions that frequently affect the brain may also involve other body systems.

Psychological and cognitive symptoms that may occur along with mood swings

Mood swings may accompany other psychological or cognitive symptoms including:

Anxiety, irritability or agitation, Boredom, Changes in mood, personality or behavior, Confusion or forgetfulness, Difficulty with concentration or attention, Difficulty with memory, thinking, talking, comprehension, writing or reading, Excess alcohol consumption, Changes in mood, personality or behavior, Confusion or forgetfulness, Difficulty with concentration or attention, Difficulty with memory, thinking, talking, comprehension, writing or reading, Hallucinations or delusions, Mood depression or elevation, Poor judgment, Racing thoughts and rapid speech, Reckless or inappropriate behaviors, Withdrawal or depression.

Mood swings may accompany symptoms related to other body systems including:

Appetite and weight changes, Cough that gets more severe over time, Fatigue, Incontinence, weakness, or sensory changes, Missed menstrual cycles, Nausea with or without vomiting, Seizures and tremors, Shortness of breath, Sleep disturbances.

Psychiatric causes of mood swings

Bipolar disorder, Borderline personality disorder (disorder characterized by unstable relationships), Depression, Intermittent explosive disorder (disorder characterized by extreme anger), Postpartum depression, Premenstrual dysphoric disorder, Substance abuse.

Mood swings can have other causes including: Brain tumors, Dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease and Huntington’s disease, Head injury, Medication side effects, Menopause, Pregnancy, Puberty, Sleep disorders.

http://www.healthgrades.com/procedures/mood-swings

Dealing with my Boyfriend Ex-Girlfriend’s

In social relationships, an Ex is someone with whom a person was once associated. It can be referred to a variety of different relationships. As a noun, Ex is assumed to refer to a former sexual or romantic partner. This often has a derogatory tinge, especially if it refers to unrequited feelings.

Some Ex-girlfriends are harmless and some needs restraining orders. Which of this Exes ready to wreck havoc on your relationship?

This former love interest of your boyfriend have turned us into obsessive compulsive internet stalker, hell bent digging up as much dirt as we can via social medias from facebook to twitter even google. Don’t pretend that you haven’t spent a lone sleepless night facebook stalking these mysterious girls, hoping that you’ll share at least one friend in common, so that you can access their pictures, even their profiles are private.

Am I the only one who shamefully admits to irrationally yet meticulously examining every photo, deconstructing tans, pore size and fine lines or criticizing outfits? Haven’t we all repeatedly gone through the Ex-girlfriend’s profile and photos desperately to find some spelling or grammatical error just to prove that they are stupid? Even using your Boyfriends profile just to invade all those pictures and status that they both shared?

I know it’s foolish, petty and completely pointless--this Ex-girlfriends have completely nothing to do with my life but they consume my free time like an evil voyeuristic addiction.

Let’s face it, most people come into a relationship with a certain amount of baggage. An Ex-girlfriends can cause problems even if she’s no longer around due to the negative effects that either the relationship or the subsequent break-up had on your partner. If your boyfriend is still in touch with his ex, she will be even more of a presence in your lives. If this bothers you, bottling up your feelings won’t get rid of that anxiety and insecurity. In fact, it only likely to make you feel worse in the long term—and it will be difficult not to come access of jealousy and paranoid.

But honestly speaking, I hate Ex-girlfriends. Reality bites, it makes me jealous. I just can’t help but feel a sense of envy that she had him before me and that he had these special feelings for her, and I can’t barely do anything about it.

This may sound so high school but Ex-girlfriends make me doubt myself. I’m obsessed to know why they broke up, if she’s pretty or if he sees me prettier enough. And if she’s pretty I pray to God that she’s an idiot, because at least I’ll have more brains.

On the other hand, if she’s not pretty, then I’ll go crazy wondering if he only date ugly girls and if I’m one of them. Also I assume that she must have an extraordinary quality or personality, so is mine good enough? Probably not.

It’s really bothering if your boyfriend is still in touch with his Ex-girlfriends. If that’s the case gather some proof of dishonesty. But I think if your boyfriend is upfront with everything about his contacts with his ex, there is no reason to worry. Some people are insecure because they were betrayed in their previous relationship or simply have low self-esteem.

The irony of Life:  I only get over with the Ex-girlfriend when I get over the Ex. Usually the feeling of insecurities last only as long as the relationship with my boyfriend lasts. Suddenly, I stop caring about the Ex-girlfriends. She’s not my problem anymore.

Instead I became a despised Ex-girlfriend, unknowingly infiltrating someone else fragile and delicate mind---continuing the cycle of confusion, self doubt and cruel physical comparisons.

But you know, sometimes some people just get in touch with their Ex-girlfriends because they think highly of them as friends. Just trying to keep on mind that even your boyfriend still wants his Ex to be a part of his life, he still choose to be with you. It’s just like you have that qualities that she doesn’t---that he considers you a better match for him.

How to deal with it? Trust your boyfriend until you have a genuine reason to doubt him.

Being Important…

It’s easy to see a relationship as the end-all and be-all of your existence. Knowing someone loves you, and only you, and just being able to love me back makes for a exhilarating experiences.

            Let’s face it---it’s flattering to be given that much attention, and it feels good to take care of someone. But what if your boy leaves you and he tells you he doesn’t love you anymore? Feels like the end of the world? For some people, Yes. While the number of suicide cases in the Philippines is still quite low (thank goodness!) compared to those in the US and Japan, teen suicide due to depression are still happening. Many others have admitted actually entertaining suicidal thoughts even they didn’t commit the act.

            It’s easy to think of suicide if you’re looking for the easiest and fastest way to get rid of the pain of being dumped and being “alone” again. But before you go any further, think about how valuable your life is and how it is important than any guy.

            There’s no question that our relationship was important to us, most times, they even help us define who we are. But if you start losing yourself in that relationship, if you are no longer important to yourself as yourself, if you feel you are only important when you are with your guy, that’s not the most ideal place to be in.

            If it is a good relationship---mutual, loving, enriching, not harmful to you or anyone else-then by all means keep it. But do not consider that relationship more important than yourself.

            Continue indulging in your interest. Develop and keep your relationship with family and friends. The more you strengthen the other aspects of your life, the more secure your personal foundation will be.

            Separating from your guy will still hurt, but yourself will be intact. And with your safety net of friends and family, you’ll be back in good form in no time.