Bitter!

Bitterness is like taking any poison and expecting the other guy to die. Try to let go of the bitter soul. Happiness is the best revenge. Practice going through your day with a smile on your face. Don't allow anyone or anything to crash your peace of mind. They say "'Kill them with kindness" it's easier to catch fly with honey. Be polite and kind at all times and you'll surprise how quickly you'll feel free and healed. Be Silent. Beware of what you say and do. In the midst of bitterness, it's easy to kill with words, but in the end it will hurt you worse. Surround yourself with positive energy. The more you hash your history, the worse it will seem. Take time to relax and free your mind with negativity. Pray every day. Prayer is the best way to "let go and let God."

past is past!

At least I don't have to exaggerate stories to explain myself. At least I don't have to spend days explaining myself again and again just to get people on my side and destroy others. At least at the end of the day, no matter how convincing one's speeches may be, people still see.

Urrrghhh, I just hate you like I never hated anyone else in my entire life! I've never felt like this towards anyone. Always trying to see the good side even of those that cause me too much harm, every hatred I feel usually doesn't last an hour, every hatred I feel is always under control. So I don't know where this is coming from. 

Maybe it's because that was the first time someone did that to me, or I've given up too much, or that someone is special, or it was all too much to handle, or the wound is just so deep.

Whatever it is, I know there's no enough reason for me to react this way every time someone recalls the past, but for the first time, I can't control it.

Forgive me Lord if I am not strong enough to forgive, as I used to say I'll always be.

With this, I rest my case. Again.

Life is Beautiful!

I am surprised at how the world enjoys feasting on the likes of crimes, disease, reality TV, and cheating when in fact a million other things deserve the attention more-- like the sound of classical music on a beautiful morning, the waves crashing onto the shores of the beach, and the smiles on people's faces when you greet them every day. Let us learn to look past the negatives, because life is beautiful. ☺

Timeline of Adventure

You don’t have to be an adrenaline junkie or thrill seeker to enjoy adventure, you just have to do the first step and just where that will lead you, well no one truly knows, I guess that is why it is called adventure.

Has there been ever a time in a day when you stop what you are doing, just literally STOP and suddenly comes up to your mind and say to yourself “I just want to leave, I want to go somewhere, I need to meet new people, I want to see a wonderful view of nature, I have to LIVE!”

Adventures consist of individual experiences that in return produces lessons. This lessons help us to create a more positive future for ourselves. This adventures changes us, teaches us and made us who we are today.

Life is an adventure, every day we wake up with dreams still so fresh in our minds and getting ready for an adventurous journey every day makes us live, help us enjoy every bit of it and gives us great memories that we cherish for a lifetime. You want to do the stupidest thing ever and still feel it was the best idea in your life and never care if you look stupid as long as you make the most out of it.

You want to tell stories to your children, grand children, friends feeling embarrassed, angry, joyful when you tell and teach them that life is worth living if you know how to and you have the evidence to prove it. You may not do it all but damn, it will feel like it.

Each day consist of different adventures, in one day we learn, we endure friendship, we build dreams. The next day we embark another adventure. The day before I had a perfect date with my Hubby, today I experienced adrenaline rush by conquering my fear of heights as I decided to go for an 300 meters zipline and tomorrow, for now is undetermined.

Each of these days is unique and filled with different adventures that made us stronger and well rounded person than the day before. This timeline represents the adventure of life, a series of events that we as individual go through. We build memories and look back to them as we grow old.

Embrace each life greatest adventures….

Separation Anxiety Disorder

Separation anxiety is a result of insecure attachment. Insecure attachment can be characterized by the infants fear, anger or indifference toward the caregiver. The child has less confidence in self, is unwilling to leave the caregivers arms and side. Infant attachment status usually does not affect the later emotional development of the child. Insecure attachments can be repaired in the early years of life. Children sometimes recover from periods of maternal depression, responding more to their mother’s current behavior than to her earlier behavior. However, the opposite may occur for children with a secure attachment with their caregiver. If a child before the age of 12 experiences a disruptive family event, this occurrence can shake loose a secure attachment.

Separation Anxiety Disorder in Children

By: healthline.com

What Is Separation Anxiety Disorder?

Separation anxiety is a normal part of childhood development. It occurs in babies between 8 and 12 months old. It usually disappears around age of 2.

Some children have symptoms of separation anxiety during their grade school and teenage years. This condition is called separation anxiety disorder or SAD. Three to four percent of children suffer from SAD (Walker, et al., 2011).

SAD tends to be indicative of general mood and mental health issues: Around one-third of children with SAD will be diagnosed with mental illness as an adult. Approximately half of childhood mental health referrals are for suspected SAD (Ehrenreich, et al., 2008).

Symptoms of Separation Anxiety Disorder

Symptoms of SAD occur when a child is separated from parents or caregivers. Fear of separation can also cause anxiety-related behaviors. Some of the most common behaviors include: clinging to parents, extreme and severe crying, refusal to do things that require separation, physical illness, such as headaches or vomiting, violent, emotional temper tantrums, refusal to go to school, poor school performance, failure to interact in a healthy manner with other children, refusing to sleep alone, nightmares, Risk Factors for Separation Anxiety Disorder.

SAD is more likely to occur in children with: a family history of anxiety/depression, shy, timid personalities, low socioeconomic status, overprotective parents, a lack of appropriate parental interaction, problems dealing with kids their own age.

SAD can also occur after a stressful life event such as: moving to a new home, switching schools, divorce, the death of a close family member.

How Is Separation Anxiety Disorder Diagnosed?

Children that experience three or more of the above symptoms may be diagnosed with SAD. Your doctor may order additional tests to confirm the diagnosis.

Your doctor might also watch you interact with your child. This shows whether your parenting style affects how your child deals with anxiety.

How Is Separation Anxiety Disorder Treated?

Therapy and medication are both used to treat SAD. Both treatment methods can help a child deal with anxiety in a positive way.

Therapy

The most effective therapy is cognitive behavior therapy (CBT). With CBT, children are taught coping techniques for anxiety. Common techniques are deep breathing and relaxation.

Parent child interaction therapy is another way to treat SAD. Parent child therapy can be broken into three main treatment phases:

Child-Directed Interaction (CDI), which focuses on improving the quality of the parent/child relationship. It involves warmth, attention, and praise. These help strengthen a child’s feeling of safety.

Bravery-Directed Interaction (BDI), which educates parents about why their child feels anxiety. Your child’s therapist will develop a bravery ladder. The ladder shows situations that cause anxious feelings. It establishes rewards for positive reactions.

Parent-Directed Interaction (PDI), which teaches parents to communicate clearly with their child. This helps to manage poor behavior.

The school environment is another key to successful treatment. Your child needs a safe place to go when he or she feels anxious. There should also be a way for your child to communicate with you if necessary during schools hours or other times he or she is away from home. Finally, your child’s teacher should encourage interaction with other classmates. If you have concerns about your child’s classroom, speak with the teacher, principle, or a guidance counselor.

http://www.healthline.com/health/anxiety/separation-anxiety

In Adults, Separation Anxiety Disorder: Top Five Symptoms

By: Newsmax.com

All of us have experienced some level of anxiety when separated from our near and dear ones. Separation anxiety disorder is a psychological disorder characterized by excessive anxiety when separated from people with whom the sufferer has strong emotional attachment. It is prevalent in both adults and children and is common in families with a history of anxiety. Among adults, more women than men suffer from this disorder. It is quite interesting to note that separation anxiety disorder in adults was recognized only about 20 years back by psychiatrists.

The top five symptoms of separation anxiety disorder are:

Persistent worry about primary caregiver. The worrying could be about losing them or about them being harmed. The person keeps constantly worrying that some unexpected event will cause separation from the attachment figure. This worry significantly affects their social and occupational performance in life. 

Excessive fear of being alone. Children with this disorder refuse to go to school, or even to play alone, as it involves being away from their primary caregiver. 

Persistent refusal to go to sleep without the presence of loved ones. Children can exhibit temper tantrums — whining, crying, throwing objects, and screaming. This usually occurs because they feel excessive and disabling distress when separated.

Recurrent nightmares about being separated from loved ones. Waking up from nightmares decreases their daytime performance.

Recurrent physical symptoms include headaches, stomach aches, nausea, vomiting, and loss of appetite when separated. Bed-wetting, in the case of children, could also be another symptom.

Some amount of separation anxiety is normal in children. It becomes a disorder when it becomes excessive. Separation anxiety disorder symptoms may begin at any age. Research shows hormonal influences during pregnancy may influence the chance of a child developing this disorder. Trauma or stress in childhood could also be a possible cause of separation anxiety disorder. Trauma could be caused by a prolonged stay in a hospital, or in an adult’s case, death of a loved one. Another causative factor could be parents who are overprotective and overanxious about their child’s safety. Side effects of some medications may also produce symptoms. 

Diagnosis for separation anxiety disorder is based on detailed history, signs, and symptoms. Symptoms have to be persistent over a long period for evaluation to be carried out. Most symptoms improve with psychotherapy and medicines. Mild separation anxiety disorder symptoms do not need any treatment.

http://www.newsmax.com/FastFeatures/Separation-anxiety-disorder-symptoms/2010/10/26/id/374886/